Today's ten things is ten things to do to be supportive when someone dies. We all encounter death, and Carole just lost a good friend. Her list is a great summary and I'm wondering what I could add to it.
The deaths I've dealt with the most in the past decade have been of our animal companions. We don't have children, and I love all of our pets. We had a bad spell where we lost three of our dogs to cancer in a relatively short period of time--probably five or six years. So my list is from the perspective of losing our dear animal companions.
1. Don't say 'it was just a dog/cat/whatever'. He or she wasn't just anything---he or she was my good friend and I spent more time with my dogs than I do with most people.
2. Don't say 'you can just get another one.' Because while I can, I'm probably not ready to yet.
3. Don't talk about the worse disease that your dog/cat has.
4. Share a remembrance about the pet.
5. Send a card.
6. When sending a card, don't reference that it seems weird to send a card for the death of a pet.
7. Talk about how odd it was for you when you lost your pet--how you still see him or her walking around corners or hear him or her scratching at the door.
Loss is hard, no matter what type of loss.